Dr. Jessica McCleese is a wife, a licensed psychologist, and a sexual educator with specialized training in sex therapy who works with Christian couples looking to improve their marriages and their sex lives using biblically-based principles. Jessica serves on the advisory board for Millennials for Marriage, is an educator through the Christian Association of Sexual Educators, and a licensed psychologist at her private practice in Norfolk, VA. She has a unique ability to connect with others and lead them through practical steps they can take to see improvements in their marriage and currently serves people internationally through her work at BeFullyWell.com.
When I tell people that I’m a Christian psychologist that specializes in marriage counseling and sex, I always get a question or two.
So, today – I’m reminding you that I love helping couples enjoy their marriage.
See, I get what it’s like to feel like marriage is extremely hard work (I’ve written about it on this blog), and I understand what it’s like to find healing and fun in marriage.
Believe me, the fun marriage is WAY better than the hard marriage.
So, I want to know your big question regarding communication, conflict resolution, and sex.
No question is off limits here and it’s completely anonymous. I’ll be asking for your email so I can let you know what those top questions were and to give you my feedback. I’m not tracking who said what and you’re not being added to an email list (unless of course you ask me to add you). 🙂
It would be super-duper helpful if you’d click here to fill out my One Question Marriage Survey.
I really hate divorce! Like, seriously…HATE divorce. It’s truly heart-breaking to see two people who used to be so in love with one another that they committed to a lifetime together get to the place where they can say, “I just don’t want to be with you. Maybe I never did.” For couples in this position, they’ve typically had a slow build up of disappointments and unhappiness leading to this stage. The good news is you can put some protective factors in place so that you don’t become one of those couples.
I had the opportunity recently to join Dr. Christine Bacon on her radio show, Breakfast With Bacon. We’ve had several great conversations, and most recently we talked specifically about hook-up culture and how the hook-up mindset is destroying marriages. You can listen in right here.
Basically, hook-up culture aims to have a no-strings attached sexual relationship. It’s similar to the old “friends with benefits” that some couples try.
Fun Fact: Did you know that some research says that women need to say almost 3 times as many words as men do in a single day? Not only that, but the male brain is not wired to hear all of the words his wife needs to say. Sounds pretty challenging, right? Don’t worry though, it really is possible to communicate well with your spouse. Watch below for some quick tips.
The last one is really important! It’s easy to get upset or get our feelings hurt when we think we’re not being heard. Keep in mind that the reasons for this could be that your brains (and therefore how you view the world) are really different from one another. Learn to pull on the strengths that you each have and take joy in your differences!
Where is one area that you and your spouse struggle to communicate well?
I recently had the opportunity to meet Dr. Christine Bacon, host of Breakfast With Bacon. Her radio show is dynamic! She has had some great guests on that have talked about topics such as marriage, relationships, conversion, forgiveness, parenting and so many other important life concerns! Dr. Bacon is incredibly friendly and kind. From just moments on the phone with her I’m sure we would have a blast hanging out over a cup of coffee.
She has invited me to be a guest on her program this Friday at 11 AM EST. If you’re local, you can listen in at AM 111o. If you’re not local, or if you just prefer the web, listen in at www.breakfastwithbacon.com. It’s sure to be a great show as we talk all about love, marriage, and sex from a Christian perspective. If you’ve been curious how a Christian therapist can talk about marriage and sex, you do not want to miss this! You’re in for an encouraging and uplifting message for sure.
Update: It was so much fun being a radio show guest and we really hit it off. We talked a little about what got me started as a therapist, what spurred my interest in sex therapy, and a little about the affair recovery process. We both have a heart for working with those that have been through affairs so you are not going to want to miss that discussion. We also talked briefly about hook-up culture and the issues with that lifestyle. Listen in to the replay right here: http://www.drchristinebacon.com/radio/yes-virginiaa-christian-sex-therapist-is-such-a-thing
Don’t forget, you can ask anonymous questions right here on the site or on Dr. Bacon’s site. We’re looking forward to making this a regular event and answering the top questions anonymously. 🙂