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Book Review for A Stronger Knot: A New Favorite Marriage Book

Plus a chance to win a free copy!!!!

One of the greatest things about having colleagues that support healthy marriages is the occasional invitation to read a book before it even hits the stores. I’ve actually been given this opportunity many times over. Sometimes, this book-lover has to turn down these invites because I get a lot of requests to read material and I just don’t always have the time to devote to it. By the way, if anyone knows of a job where I can just sit around and read books all day, send me an email so I can apply. 🙂

I’m putting my stamp of approval on this one!

Like I said, I don’t have nearly enough time to read all of the wonderful material that my colleagues and other marriage proponents are writing, but when Aaron gave me the opportunity to read his book, A Stronger Knot, and send my thoughts, I quickly agreed. Aaron and I have had the opportunity to do a couple of webinars together where we’ve talked about establishing healthy boundaries and where we’ve discussed how to handle sexual desire differences in marriage. And, we have plans to do some more work together in the future. This is how I knew, even before reading A Stronger Knot, that there would be some great content in his book.

By the way – I never endorse something that I haven’t experienced myself. I just can’t allow myself to share a resource I don’t fully believe in. And, if I share a resource that I only mostly like, you’re going to get a disclaimer about it.

Aaron’s book is gold! I’m such a big fan of this book, that I’ve already got two copies coming to me. One for me to keep (I just had an unpublished electronic version when I reviewed it) and one to give away to one of you. Deets on the giveaway at the bottom of this blog. 

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A Review of “A Lifelong Love” by Gary Thomas (Colorado Springs: David C Cook, 2014)

I recently finished reading Gary Thomas’ book, A Lifelong Love. The text at the bottom of the cover simply asks, “What if Marriage is About More Than Just Staying Together?”

One of the reasons I love this book is because Mr. Thomas beautifully expresses some of the same thoughts that I have. I’ve also written about marriage being about more than the feeling of being “in love” and believe with absolute certainty that feeling like you love your spouse or that you should stay committed to your marriage because of the Biblical principle to do so, simply isn’t enough to maintain a fulfilling marriage.

Before writing this book, Mr. Thomas also wrote the book Sacred Marriage, where he discussed the truth that marriage wasn’t designed to make us happy as much as it was to make us holy. And while I loved that book also, I felt that it was somewhat limited in not describing how we can also be happy in marriage. This newest book, A Lifelong Love, does a fantastic job of also showing that we can be happy – truly happy, in marriage when we practice the simple principle of loving well.

In chapter ten, Mr. Thomas talks about the importance of building true intimacy in marriage. He says, “…a good marriage isn’t something you find; it’s something you make, and you have to keep on making it.” I agree 100% with this statement. It isn’t always easy, but making your marriage good should definitely be a priority.

I encourage you to grab a copy of Mr. Thomas’ book, A Lifelong Love. I truly believe it will bless you and your marriage.

My prayer for you is that you do indeed have a lifelong love in your spouse!

Blessings on you and your marriage,


Three Marriage Books You Should Buy Today.

I truly love to read. The only problem is there simply are not enough hours in the day to read all of the books that I want to. I’m always on the lookout for new books to add to my “favorites” so I can offer those to people when they ask directly about books for marriage or intimacy. Today, I’m sharing three of my favorite books about making your marriage a little more fulfilling. 

#1: From Anger to Intimacy by Gary Smalley and Ted Cunningham

There are a few reasons I love this book. First of all, this book is incredibly practical for a couple to read together. The authors don’t use clinical language, but instead tell stories about times when conflict happened in their marriage and easy-to-take action steps (or at least easy to understand) toward reducing conflict. They give a step-by-step action sequence for reducing conflict, but go beyond that to help you identify the ‘why’ that conflict occurs in your marriage.

The title might lead you to believe that this is a book that is mainly for couples with one spouse (or two) that gets angry easily, but in actuality, this book can be used even if you wouldn’t describe yourself as angry. In fact, they describe a form of anger that is less intense than most think of when they think about anger in marriage. The authors do such a great job of explaining how to do conflict well that I really believe it is a must have for any couple that has any difficulty resolving conflict.

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My Book Review!

Feb. 2016

Last month I shared my reading list with you. Just thought I’d share my February list as well. I’m always up for hearing about any books you’re reading.

#1. The Rosie Project by Graeme Simsion
I admit that I don’t take time to read novels all that often. This particular one was a great choice, though. This is the love story of Don (a man with autism) and the completely unconventional Rosie. It’s told from Don’s perspective. If you know someone with autism, you’ll find this book a great comic relief with just the right touch of emotional pull. Just a warning – this is not a “Christian” book. It has some cussing and one of the characters sleeps around a lot. But, if that is not too off putting, check it out because it really is a great book that produced no other result but entertainment. A win! 

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