Want more ideas for play?

While the ideas in the video for play are great, they may take more time than you have outside of the weekend.

Even so, a busy schedule doesn’t mean that you have to neglect playtime with your spouse. Below are some ways you can play even if you’re a little short on time.

Flirting by app:

Have you downloaded bitmoji yet? This app is a great way to be playful and flirty with your spouse. You create an avatar that looks like you and then send the pre-generated bitmojis through text. The app is available for both Android and iPhone, so go check it out and have fun with it.

Laugh with each other:

Did you know that couples who laugh together are more like to call their marriage “happy” than those who don’t? You can generate laughter through silly stories, sending funny videos to one another, or telling jokes. Use whatever method feels most true to your personalities.

Dance together:

Turn on some music and have a little two-person dance party. You can even include this kids in this one if they’re around. Bonus point if you do an award-winning lip synch at the same time. Lip-synching happens to be one of my skills that I don’t often get to showcase outside of the home. 😉

Whatever you choose to do, don’t wait until the weekend to have some fun in your marriage. The time is always right for a little bit of play.

Discuss!

What are some ideas you and your spouse have for playing together?

 

Should You Stay Together if You’re Unhappy?

Family Studies
Feb. 22, 2017

In the article I’m sharing with you (just click the blue link at the top) the author talks about his relationship with his wife at a time when his wife was unhappy and how they restored the relationship.

He shares some great research showing that typically, unhappy marriages can become happy again over time. While this research is based solely on the relationship at the time of the birth of a new child and then ten years later when the child is eleven, other research has also shown that despite what we typically read, couples can be happy together.

For an in-depth look at what factors need to be present for a couple to be “highly happy,” check out Shaunti Feldhahn’s book, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages.

Please know that if you are not currently feeling happy in your marriage, positive change can happen! And it doesn’t typically take big changes. Over and over again in my work with couples (and in my own marriage) I find that its the consistent little acts that make couples happy.

Focus on the day-to-day consistency of loving your spouse and believing your spouse cares for you. It will make a big difference in your marriage!

Discuss: What is one of the day-to-day little things your spouse does for you that makes you happy?

The Hitch Fix Podcast

Millennials for Marriage
Feb. 16, 2017

My friends over at Millennials for Marriage recently released their podcast. They interviewed me for episode number two where I talked to them about pornography and sexual addiction.

Here are a couple of the big points:

  1. Pornography use does not automatically mean that somebody is a sex addict.
  2. Sex addiction really does exist.
  3. There are resources available to you if you are struggling with pornography use (addictive or not).
  4. Even if your pornography use is not at an addictive level, there is no place for porn in the Christian marriage.

For more, check out the podcast and consider subscribing so you’ll know when they release more. Their mission is to equip millennials for marriage, but you don’t have to be a millennial to get great information from them. Listen to the podcast and hear their heart to understand why all married Christians should be concerned about millennials’ views of marriage.

Once you’ve listened to the podcast come back here to leave a comment.

Be blessed!

Don’t Buy The Teapot: A Lesson in Communication

Tevana teapot

Sit on back, grab a cup of your favorite tea, and join me on this little trip down memory lane to see how an unnecessary and expensive teapot helped me and my hubby learn to communicate better.

First, a bit of background information. In 2012, Jacob and I decided to move from Virginia, where we were both finishing school, to Texas, so Jacob could get to know my family better. We did a little cost/benefit analysis for several situations and decided our best bet was to sell everything, save as much money as possible, and take the leap of faith that we’d have jobs soon after our move.

By the way, when I say sell ALL of our stuff, I really mean it. We even sold our cars. We took with us only what fit in a couple of carry-on bags, a couple of checked bags, and a few boxes of books and pictures that we mailed to my parent’s home before moving and hopped on a plane.

Remember the goal here – get rid of unnecessary stuff and save a lot of money to prepare for a big move.

Be careful of communicating with one another when you’re tired, moody, or sick.

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Naked and Hiding in the Bushes

Just Call Me Eve...

vulnerability: hiding in the bushes

My husband likes to joke that I stalked him and he saw me hiding in the bushes. Literally, that has NEVER happened. Metaphorically though, I probably go into hiding more often than I even realize.

I haven’t tried too hard to hide my vulnerabilities on this blog (I’ve written about it here, and here), but even so, many of them remain hidden. Vulnerability hurts. And who of us really wants to show our brokenness?

We all have some level of brokenness though. Even if you can’t think of any negative events in your past, your own sinful nature creates a cycle of “naked, afraid, and hiding.” We simply all fall into that cycle. We can even read the first instance of this as early as the third chapter of the Bible. Adam and Eve decided to eat of the forbidden fruit and suddenly they were made aware of their own brokenness and vulnerability. For the first time, they fully understood sinfulness and realized that they were unworthy to stand in the presence of a holy God, so they covered themselves with leaves and hid in the bushes.

While the message of Adam and Eve is certainly specifically about the fall of man, there is a lesson that goes even beyond the fall – when we’re aware of our vulnerabilities, we become fearful and want to hide.

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