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What To Do When Sex Hurts

Helpful tips for dealing with painful sex

Are you experiencing painful sex?

If so, you’re not alone. It is estimated that 3 out of 4 women will experience painful sex at some point in their lives. That’s a whopping 75% of women that occasionally (or maybe often) experience pain with intercourse.

There can be several reasons that sex is painful.

One of the most disturbing facts about sexual pain is that it is still not completely understood by most doctors. That means if you mention this pain to your doctor, you might see that your doctor is dismissive, tells you that you’re over anxious or stressed, or simply says that pain is an unfortunate reality as you age. This is a tragic set of responses because you really shouldn’t have to experience pain with sexual intercourse.

Why do I have pain with sex?

Painful sex is known as dyspareunia, but this is a “catch-all” word that is used to describe any type of sexual pain regardless of why the pain is actually occurring. The following terms are descriptions of specific causes for sexual pain. Knowing the specific causes can help you better understand where your pain is coming from.

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How To Cope With Different Libidos in Marriage

Working Through The Desire Gap in a Christian Marriage

What is a desire discrepancy in marriage?

A desire discrepancy is when one spouse wants to be sexually intimate more often than the other spouse does. This can also be called a desire gap or differences in libido. I’ll use all of those terms interchangeably here.

Please know that all marriages will go through times where one spouse is more interested in sex than the other. In reality, that isn’t much of an issue as long as your norm isn’t one spouse feeling deprived. 

Christian sex therapists, Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner have said that if sexual issues go on for too long, they can feel like 80% of the relationship. In other words, if this is a serious concern and it isn’t worked on, it can color the entire marriage. 

Having a healthy overall relationship means tackling issues before it feels like “80% of our problem.” Working on this part of your relationship will require working on all parts of the relationship.

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What Sex Can and Should Look Like in the Christian Marriage

Webinar Replay with Dr. Jessica and J. Parker
3/1/2018

J. Parker from Hot, Holy, and Humorous joined me a few days ago to talk about what sex looks like in the Christian marriage.

We both agree that Christians often believe that sex should be naturally easy and fulfilling for married couples. In reality, many couples struggle to feel connected and to enjoy one another. In this webinar, we talk about how couples can aim to increase their joy in their marriage bed.

You can see the video right here. 🙂

I’m excited to have Julie Sibert from Intimacy in Marriage join me for our webinar! We’re going to be talking about three ways that the church gets sex wrong and how you can make it right. We’ll be working to dispel some of the messages that you might have heard in church that either did not go far enough, or that have been a little misleading. We’re going to be championing for healthy marriages and for an intimate sexual connection. We fully believe that Christians should be having an awesome sex life AND we believe that it is completely possible. Join us to learn some truths about sex and some tips for increasing the bond in your marriage. By the way…Julie has a special gift for one lucky listener. Tune in for your chance to win!

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Date:February 8, 2018
Time:1:00 PM EST
Event:3 Ways the Church Gets Sex Wrong (and how you can make sure you get it right)
Topic:3 Ways the Church Gets Sex Wrong AND How You Can Get It Right!
Public:Public
Registration:Click here to register.