Past Abuse Makes Me Hate Sex

Pretty often I get questions through email. Typically, I just answer those as an email back to the reader, but I've decided to be more intentional about giving these answers to a wider audience by including them here on the blog. I'm not sure how often this will...

What To Do When Sex Hurts

Are you experiencing painful sex? If so, you’re not alone. It is estimated that 3 out of 4 women will experience painful sex at some point in their lives. That’s a whopping 75% of women that occasionally (or maybe often) experience pain with intercourse. One of the...

How To Cope With Different Libidos in Marriage

What is a desire discrepancy in marriage? A desire discrepancy is when one spouse wants to be sexually intimate more often than the other spouse does. This can also be called a desire gap or differences in libido. I’ll use all of those terms interchangeably here....

10 Questions Couples Ask After an Affair

What is infidelity? While "what is infidelity," isn’t one of the ten questions that couples ask, it can be helpful to understand this term before we move into the process of answering the top questions that couples have. Infidelity is the voluntary action of having a...

Adjusting to Type II Diabetes Diagnosis

Before we start... Let's have some fun before we get started. Do you know some of the common symptoms and facts about diabetes? Try your hand at our quiz and receive a free pdf about diabetes awareness. After the quiz, come back to read the rest of the article. I just...

How Does Sexual Abuse Impact Those You Love?

Statistics about sexual abuse are absolutely staggering. It saddens me that so many people feel alone in the process of healing from sexual abuse. It's no secret that sexual abuse often hasn't been described well and even with the very worthy #MeToo movement, people...

You Don’t Need Candles for Great Sex

I knew a lady once who would give a simple gift to girls at their wedding shower: a small bag with candles and bubble bath. She would explain that it was a wonderful way to relax on your wedding night prior to making love. She was and is still right. Mood setting is a...

Getting and Keeping the Marriage You Want

Have you ever heard advice from people online about finding love? For most of the people that read this blog, love has been found at some point. Love is why you got married after all. But, there are many couples who wonder what it looks like to have more love and...

3 Tips for Building a Strong Marriage

I really hate divorce! Like, seriously...HATE divorce. It's truly heart-breaking to see two people who used to be so in love with one another that they committed to a lifetime together get to the place where they can say, "I just don't want to be with you. Maybe I...

Hook Up Culture And Marriage

I had the opportunity recently to join Dr. Christine Bacon on her radio show, Breakfast With Bacon. We've had several great conversations, and most recently we talked specifically about hook-up culture and how the hook-up mindset is destroying marriages. You can...

Three Things to Remember When Talking to Your Spouse

Fun Fact: Did you know that some research says that women need to say almost 3 times as many words as men do in a single day? Not only that, but the male brain is not wired to hear all of the words his wife needs to say. Sounds pretty challenging, right? Don't worry...

Communication in Marriage

One of my favorite things to talk about is how different men and women are and how those differences can really be seen in our communication patterns. Communication is so difficult for most couples, that basically everyone I've ever seen has listed "difficulty with...