How To Have The Sex Talk…With Your Spouse

When is the last time you heard some information about sex that gave you insight into your spouse’s desires in the bedroom? For most couples, this information comes from anywhere but their own marriages. We read blogs, listen to podcasts, watch TV and movies, and look...

Naked and Hiding in the Bushes

My husband likes to joke that I stalked him and he saw me hiding in the bushes. Literally, that has NEVER happened. Metaphorically though, I probably go into hiding more often than I even realize. Vulnerability is scary! I haven’t tried too hard to hide my...

Change Your Focus – Change Your Marriage

As a therapist, I often talk to couples about their goals for our work together or how I can be most helpful. Couples typically say something along the lines of improving their communication, fighting less, or working through issues regarding their intimate lives....

Three Tips for Maintaining a Healthy Marriage

I’m a big fan of natural alternatives to medication and getting our bodies back to the way God designed them. Your cells are constantly trying to achieve homeostasis and toxins disrupt this process. How does this relate to marriage? Well...couples can have a host of...

For Husbands: Help when your wife is infertile

[guestpost]This post was originally shared on coreycarlisle.org/ as a guest post for him. It has been edited slightly to no longer reference Infertility Awareness Week which was occurring when it was originally shared. Check out Dr. Corey's page for more articles on...

Getting His Attention

[guestpost]This is a guest post from Dr. Corey Carlisle. Corey is a deeply curious observer and investigator of human relationships and sexuality. His passion is to help others experience the good and the beautiful in these areas. Corey works as an ordained Christian...

When Depression Affects Your Marriage

Depression can play a serious role in how a couple functions within the marriage. I've worked for several years with couples who function fairly well until a bout of depression comes in. Sometimes, its the wife who struggles with depression, sometimes the husband, and...

Is Your Marriage Essential?

I recently finished the book, Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less. It's such a great book that I'm going through it a second time. While the concepts in the book are most likely to be embraced as a way to work less and achieve more, the author makes it clear...

We Disagree on How Often We Should Have Sex

Many, many couples face what's known as a desire discrepancy or a desire gap. One spouse wants sex more often than the other. Statistics seem to show that in about 1/3 of marriages, the wife has the higher level of desire and in the other 2/3 of marriages the husband...

How to Have a Great Date Night

Date night is a great way to connect with the person you love. Since dating can help a couple feel closer to one another, I recommend this as a must-have for any couple looking to improve their marriage. Many couples get so busy with life that  they struggle to...

Three Marriage Books You Should Buy Today.

I truly love to read. The only problem is there simply are not enough hours in the day to read all of the books that I want to. I’m always on the lookout for new books to add to my “favorites” so I can offer those to people when they ask directly about books for...

Embracing the Sacred in Your Marriage

There’s this old joke: Marriage has three rings. The engagement ring, the wedding ring, and the suffering. Hmmph. It’s sad that so many people expect marriage to be a burden. The truth is, for the Christian, marriage is a sacred union between husband and wife and a...

Practicing Forgiveness After an Affair

I recently wrote about regaining trust after an affair and how forgiveness is important to the process of rebuilding trust. I promised in that last blog that I would tackle that topic which is why I’m writing this one. I’m sure you’ve heard that you need to “forgive...

Rebuilding Trust After an Affair

Recovery from an affair and learning to trust again can be one of the biggest struggles that a couple ever faces. Questions arise like: How can I ever trust again now that my spouse has betrayed me? How do we make sure this doesn't happen in the future? What do I do...

Be Curious: A Key To Marital Intimacy

I just want to take a quick minute to introduce you to my friend and colleague, Dr. Corey Carlisle. He agreed to write this guest blog post about using curiosity to increase your marital intimacy. Read below to see how being curious can help and then say hi to him...

When Fertile Myrtle Meets Barren Bertha

April 24th-30th of 2016 is National Infertility Awareness Week. I’m not 100% sure how I feel about that because I can guarantee you those struggling with infertility hardly need a full week to be aware of it. Kidding! I know the week isn’t for me, but for my friends,...