I Don’t Always Send Surveys About Marriage, But When I do…

A One-Question Survey About Marriage

When I tell people that I’m a Christian psychologist that specializes in marriage counseling and sex, I always get a question or two.

So, today – I’m reminding you that I love helping couples enjoy their marriage.

See, I get what it’s like to feel like marriage is extremely hard work (I’ve written about it on this blog), and I understand what it’s like to find healing and fun in marriage.

Believe me, the fun marriage is WAY better than the hard marriage.

So, I want to know your big question regarding communication, conflict resolution, and sex.

No question is off limits here and it’s completely anonymous. I’ll be asking for your email so I can let you know what those top questions were and to give you my feedback. I’m not tracking who said what and you’re not being added to an email list (unless of course you ask me to add you).  🙂

It would be super-duper helpful if you’d click here to fill out my One Question Marriage Survey.

UPDATE: The survey has now closed and I’m rummaging through all of the responses to bring you awesome content related to your questions. I’ve already started planning some of it out and can hardly wait to share with you. So many of you had the same few questions!!!

If you want to make sure you get updated when I release the info, join my VIP list. Not only will you be the first to hear about the latest and greatest, but you’ll also get my free guide all about increasing the intimacy in your marriage. Click here to join!

Be blessed, friend!

3 Tips for Building a Strong Marriage

I really hate divorce! Like, seriously…HATE divorce. It’s truly heart-breaking to see two people who used to be so in love with one another that they committed to a lifetime together get to the place where they can say, “I just don’t want to be with you. Maybe I never did.” For couples in this position, they’ve typically had a slow build up of disappointments and unhappiness leading to this stage. The good news is you can put some protective factors in place so that you don’t become one of those couples.

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Breakfast With Bacon Radio Show

Love, marriage, sex (and who knows what else) :)

I recently had the opportunity to meet Dr. Christine Bacon, host of Breakfast With Bacon. Her radio show is dynamic! She has had some great guests on that have talked about topics such as marriage, relationships, conversion, forgiveness, parenting and so many other important life concerns! Dr. Bacon is incredibly friendly and kind. From just moments on the phone with her I’m sure we would have a blast hanging out over a cup of coffee.

She has invited me to be a guest on her program this Friday at 11 AM EST. If you’re local, you can listen in at AM 111o. If you’re not local, or if you just prefer the web, listen in at www.breakfastwithbacon.com. It’s sure to be a great show as we talk all about love, marriage, and sex from a Christian perspective. If you’ve been curious how a Christian therapist can talk about marriage and sex, you do not want to miss this! You’re in for an encouraging and uplifting message for sure.

Update: It was so much fun being a radio show guest and we really hit it off. We talked a little about what got me started as a therapist, what spurred my interest in sex therapy, and a little about the affair recovery process. We both have a heart for working with those that have been through affairs so you are not going to want to miss that discussion. We also talked briefly about hook-up culture and the issues with that lifestyle. Listen in to the replay right here: http://www.drchristinebacon.com/radio/yes-virginiaa-christian-sex-therapist-is-such-a-thing

Don’t forget, you can ask anonymous questions right here on the site or on Dr. Bacon’s site. We’re looking forward to making this a regular event and answering the top questions anonymously. 🙂

 

Want more ideas for play?

While the ideas in the video for play are great, they may take more time than you have outside of the weekend.

Even so, a busy schedule doesn’t mean that you have to neglect playtime with your spouse. Below are some ways you can play even if you’re a little short on time.

Flirting by app:

Have you downloaded bitmoji yet? This app is a great way to be playful and flirty with your spouse. You create an avatar that looks like you and then send the pre-generated bitmojis through text. The app is available for both Android and iPhone, so go check it out and have fun with it.

Laugh with each other:

Did you know that couples who laugh together are more like to call their marriage “happy” than those who don’t? You can generate laughter through silly stories, sending funny videos to one another, or telling jokes. Use whatever method feels most true to your personalities.

Dance together:

Turn on some music and have a little two-person dance party. You can even include this kids in this one if they’re around. Bonus point if you do an award-winning lip synch at the same time. Lip-synching happens to be one of my skills that I don’t often get to showcase outside of the home. 😉

Whatever you choose to do, don’t wait until the weekend to have some fun in your marriage. The time is always right for a little bit of play.

Discuss!

What are some ideas you and your spouse have for playing together?

 

Should You Stay Together if You’re Unhappy?

Family Studies
Feb. 22, 2017

In the article I’m sharing with you (just click the blue link at the top) the author talks about his relationship with his wife at a time when his wife was unhappy and how they restored the relationship.

He shares some great research showing that typically, unhappy marriages can become happy again over time. While this research is based solely on the relationship at the time of the birth of a new child and then ten years later when the child is eleven, other research has also shown that despite what we typically read, couples can be happy together.

For an in-depth look at what factors need to be present for a couple to be “highly happy,” check out Shaunti Feldhahn’s book, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages.

Please know that if you are not currently feeling happy in your marriage, positive change can happen! And it doesn’t typically take big changes. Over and over again in my work with couples (and in my own marriage) I find that its the consistent little acts that make couples happy.

Focus on the day-to-day consistency of loving your spouse and believing your spouse cares for you. It will make a big difference in your marriage!

Discuss: What is one of the day-to-day little things your spouse does for you that makes you happy?