How To Cope With Different Libidos in Marriage

Working Through The Desire Gap in a Christian Marriage

What is a desire discrepancy in marriage?

A desire discrepancy is when one spouse wants to be sexually intimate more often than the other spouse does. This can also be called a desire gap or differences in libido. I’ll use all of those terms interchangeably here.

Please know that all marriages will go through times where one spouse is more interested in sex than the other. In reality, that isn’t much of an issue as long as your norm isn’t one spouse feeling deprived. 

Christian sex therapists, Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner have said that if sexual issues go on for too long, they can feel like 80% of the relationship. In other words, if this is a serious concern and it isn’t worked on, it can color the entire marriage. 

Having a healthy overall relationship means tackling issues before it feels like “80% of our problem.” Working on this part of your relationship will require working on all parts of the relationship.

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What Sex Can and Should Look Like in the Christian Marriage

Webinar Replay with Dr. Jessica and J. Parker

J. Parker from Hot, Holy, and Humorous joined me a few days ago to talk about what sex looks like in the Christian marriage.

We both agree that Christians often believe that sex should be naturally easy and fulfilling for married couples. In reality, many couples struggle to feel connected and to enjoy one another. In this webinar, we talk about how couples can aim to increase their joy in their marriage bed.

You can see the video right here. 🙂

I’m excited to have Julie Sibert from Intimacy in Marriage join me for our webinar! We’re going to be talking about three ways that the church gets sex wrong and how you can make it right. We’ll be working to dispel some of the messages that you might have heard in church that either did not go far enough, or that have been a little misleading. We’re going to be championing for healthy marriages and for an intimate sexual connection. We fully believe that Christians should be having an awesome sex life AND we believe that it is completely possible. Join us to learn some truths about sex and some tips for increasing the bond in your marriage. By the way…Julie has a special gift for one lucky listener. Tune in for your chance to win!

Register right here!!!!

Date:February 8, 2018
Time:1:00 PM EST
Event:3 Ways the Church Gets Sex Wrong (and how you can make sure you get it right)
Topic:3 Ways the Church Gets Sex Wrong AND How You Can Get It Right!
Registration:Click here to register.

I had a great time on the webinar with Ruth from Awaken Love. We talked about some of the differences that exist between men and women and some of the ways that we can strengthen our relationship through those differences. We also talked about God’s design for our sex lives.

I received feedback that the webinar was really helpful and that we spoke to key issues that women were facing. You can check out our replay by watching the video above.

After you watch the video, feel free to leave us some comments. And, don’t forget to head on over to Ruth’s page to learn more about her Awaken Love Class for women that are looking to improve the sexual connection they have with their husbands.

Ruth and I are excited to talk to you about marriage and sex.

Specifically, in Claiming the Gift of Sex, we’re going to talk about the reasons that God created sex and why the sexual connection is so important.

Join us and hear why differences between men and women exist and how those differences can enhance our relationship, how to distinguish truth from lies when it comes to healthy sexuality, and how understanding truth and healing of our sexual pasts can bring the freedom needed for an intimate connection.

God truly wants you to have a fulfilling sex life with your spouse and we know that this webinar will help you get there if you’ve been struggling.

Make it to the live event to ask any questions you have. And, if you can’t make it live, register here to have the recording sent to you.

NOTE: This event has ended, but you can watch the replay right here!

Date:February 1, 2018—February 7, 2018
Time:1:00 PM
Event:Claiming the Gift of Sex
Topic:Claiming the Gift of Sex
Registration:Click here to register.