Want to know some simple tips for increasing your sexual satisfaction? Figure out what your partner likes (both in and out of the bedroom), make sex a priority, and make it about more than the physical act.
Find out what your spouse’s sexual needs are!
Many couples have a hard time describing exactly what they would like or what turns them on. Of course, anything you choose should be something that does not go against scripture (the marriage bed is for you two – no others), but many couples can’t ask for some basic requests. Talk with your spouse about what turns you on. Describe the touches and kisses that you enjoy. Tell your spouse your favorite sexual position or how you would like sex to be initiated. Don’t demand. Just talk with one another about ways you might enhance your intimate time together. Then pick one of the things you’ve talked about and act on it!
Sometimes you need to write, “Have sex” in your day planner.
Often times, couples expect that sex just happens and that if it isn’t happening something is horribly wrong with them or the relationship. The truth is that couples receive a distorted picture of relational intimacy from TV and movies. According to Hollywood, couples typically have an undeniable passion that causes them to set all else aside for their intimate times together. They don’t need a lot of foreplay, they don’t need a lot of time, and somehow, nothing ever seems to get in the way.
But, marriage is based in reality. There are schedules to worry about, jobs, kids, endless responsibilities. Having a passionate marriage means making your alone time a priority. Don’t wait for “just the right moment.” Make time to make love. You’ll be glad you did.
Good sex is about more than the mechanics!
Some couples get so worked up trying to make sure that one or both of them have an earth-shattering orgasm that they forget to really enjoy one another. They aim to please, but end up disappointed. This is partially because when you “try too hard” you can’t relax and enjoy the moment.
Keep in mind that good sex involves the whole person. It goes beyond the physical, including the mind, emotions & heart, and spirit. Scripture even tells us that the two become one. That means that good, healthy, enjoyable sex is more than a physical act. And, while understanding the basic functions of the body and the importance of foreplay comes in handy, truly enjoyable sex happens when both partners can lose themselves in one another.
Blessings on you, your marriage, and your sex life!