April 24th-30th of 2016 is National Infertility Awareness Week.
I’m not 100% sure how I feel about that because I can guarantee you those struggling with infertility hardly need a full week to be aware of it. Kidding! I know the week isn’t for me, but for my friends, family, and possibly even colleagues that don’t understand the struggle. This is a week for me to share some of my story so you’ll know how to talk to me. I’m supposed to teach you things like:
1-8 couples struggle with infertility (chances are you know someone even if they haven’t told you yet)
If you are under the age of 30 and you’ve been trying for a year unsuccessfully to conceive, then you should seek the help of a doctor.
If you’re older than 30, you should only wait 6 months of “trying” before seeing a doctor.
Infertility is costly (financially and emotionally)
There are plenty of blogs that talk about all of the above and plenty that give you the details on what you should and shouldn’t say to your infertile friend. But the truth is, the journey of infertility is so different for every couple that you really do have to ask your friend how to best to talk to her.
Want to know some simple tips for increasing your sexual satisfaction? Figure out what your partner likes (both in and out of the bedroom), make sex a priority, and make it about more than the physical act.
Tip #1 Find out what your spouse’s sexual needs are!
Many couples have a hard time describing exactly what they would like or what turns them on. Of course, anything you choose should be something that does not go against scripture (the marriage bed is for you two – no others), but many couples can’t ask for some basic requests. Talk with your spouse about what turns you on. Describe the touches and kisses that you enjoy. Tell your spouse your favorite sexual position or how you would like sex to be initiated. Don’t demand. Just talk with one another about ways you might enhance your intimate time together. Then pick one of the things you’ve talked about and act on it!
Have you ever heard a really good sermon about sex?
I mean the kind that makes you actually shout, “hallelujah,” “amen,” “praise Him all ye saints!” or whatever it is that you yell when the preacher does a particularly great job proclaiming the truth.
I remember growing up in church and hearing a few sermons on sex.
Just a few.
I actually remember hearing (probably not in these exact words), “Hey single people, sex is NOT for you! If you are lucky enough to get married one day, you’ll have the most amazing mind-blowing sex. Sex so good that you can’t even imagine it. And, you shouldn’t, because you’re single! So don’t even think about it!”
Let me start by saying I’m speaking from a Christian world-view. I can only speculate what you might learn if you just pick a random sex therapist to talk to. What I’m sharing here is what you would learn if you went to a Christian sex therapist. Let me also just provide a quick disclaimer here. I’m not a sex therapist. I haven’t completely finished my certification process. I’m more like a “pre-sex therapist” (though that isn’t actually a thing at all). That being said, I’m friends with some people that have finished the certification process and professionally involved with several certified people. By the way, you haven’t really talked about sex until you’ve spent a couple of hours with a group of sex therapists. Oh, the things you learn! Anyway, for the purpose of this article, I’m going to count myself among those certified by use of the “we” throughout. Disclaimer over. 🙂
So, if you’ve wondered what it would be like to be a fly on the wall, or what exactly sex therapists do (and if one can really be a Christian), wonder no more. While this is not a complete list by any means, here are three significant things you would learn if you went to a Christian sex therapist.